Here are some ways to get back on track when your coaching session has lost its way.


  • Lack of resonance can signal disconnect and that things are off track
  • Speaking to what’s happening for you
  • Locating sensations or feelings in your body
  • Being with silence
  • Asking the client what they need
  • Getting curious about what “is”
  • Trying to “think” your way to a better place usually doesn’t work very well
    • Listening instead to a certain part of your body often works better
  • Poorly formed topics can lead to lack of resonance
    • Is there a way to clarify what is seeking to be known or the desired outcome?
  • The value of venting or an emotional dump
  • Asking a particular body part to inform you
  • Prompts
    • What would you like to be different by the end of our time?
    • What would you like to be new by the end of our conversation?
    • What meaning are you assigning to how this is going?
  • Gremlins and saboteurs can throw things off track
    • Sometimes they like to turn on the fog machine
    • The land of “I don’t know”
  • What story or judgements are you telling yourself about how the session is going?
  • Ways to break out of a particular state (during or after a session)
    • Meditation
    • Jump up and down
    • Stand up
    • Move outside
    • Change rooms/geography
    • Exercise
    • Hydrate
    • Journal
      • “The story I’m telling myself is …”
      • “The story I could tell myself instead is …”
      • Capture what worked or didn’t
  • Co-Active Coaching: The proven framework for transformative conversations at work and in life by Karen Kimsey-House, Henry Kimsey-House, Phillip Sandhal, and Laura Whitworth
  • Use an unsatisfying session as motivation to learn more or go back to your training
  • Humans are involved
  • The key to success is restarting


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