Tina Robinson is back to delve into the often murky topic of figuring out what we want. Together we share some ways to get clearer.
- Money is often an immediate answer and yet it doesn’t truly describe what we want
- Ask yourself what you believe money will give you as a way to push things deeper
- What does money represent to you?
- The ability to play
- Take care of others and be of service
- Something else
- Tina’s Trader Joe’s Meltdown Moment
- The tension of listing out all the things you don’t want
- You may get more of those things you don’t want
- You might be doing that to avoid the harder question of getting really clear about what you DO want
- Do you tell yourself you are not allowed to have certain things?
- What or How instead of Why
- Writing without constraints or filters is the fastest way to get in touch with what’s going inside you
- The importance of making lists and building a muscle around it via James Altucher
- Choose Yourself (a bargain at $0.99!)
- Strengthening the muscle of “What I want”
- Practice honoring your intuition
- Listening the way our bodies inform us
- Listening to your “heart” vs. your “head”
Here are a few ways ways to figure out what you want
- Make a wild list of things… free write!
- Imagine what success looks like in a particular situation (instead of dwelling on all the things that aren’t working)
- Create a matrix with the left column listing skills that you are good at and across the top each, your professional experiences for the past 5-10 years)
- Match them up… when were you happiest?
- Look for roles where you were using the most of your strengths
- How were you feeling? what made you feel that way? leads to “What I want is to be able to use these _____ skills more.”
- What did you like to do when you were 12 years old? Look for ways to weave those things into your work–you probably still love them
- Getting clear on what you want makes it easier to weave those things into your annual goals or personal development plans at work
- John’s best career advancements happened when he was really really clear about what he wanted to do next
- He looked for ways to those things
- Instead of looking for what was available and deciding if I was a fit
- Are you struggling to identify what you want because you are afraid you might get it (fear of success)?
- Kids are extremely clear about what they want.. what would it look like to approach what you want from a child’s perspective?
- Do the 5 whats/whys exercise (wikipedia)
- Go for a walk with a voice recorder and just talk out about the things that pop into your mind or the things you see
More on the topic of “figuring out what you want”
- See the previous episode: What Do You Want? (21)
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