Brad Solomon and I set off on another unplanned exploration into what’s present to us in the moment, including sharing childhood pictures of ourselves.

This is a rebroadcast of a conversation I had with Brad Solomon, Founder and CEO of the CTG Group in the UK on his podcast called The Lockdown Sessions.

The Lockdown Sessions is a weekly podcast, hosted by Brad that explores reflections on a broad range of topics including self awareness, self management, learning and development issues and personal growth.

For this conversation there is also a video on Youtube.  If that’s your jam and if you want to see what I looked like when I was four years-old (and many years later in present times) you can see it there.

We keep coming back to The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz, but this episode is definitely lighter on the book references the our previous conversation.

Conversation Highlights

  • Coaching from an un-nuanced and unfiltered place
  • Our word creates–what are you creating with it?
  • Is being late to meetings your “brand?”
  • Being impeccable with our word or cleaning it up
  • We cannot bring meaning to a situation for another person (only they can)
    • Even though we think we can
    • Even though we try
  • Do you re-play and re-create conversations in your head? How does it benefit you?
  • Changing situations by how you are being and who you bring to the conversation versus saying the perfect thing you figured out from a past interaction
  • Brad likes to ask
    • What did I want to happen?
      • Can I envision it?
      • Do I have clarity of the purpose?
    • How did I get in the way?
      • Owning my role in the conversation
  • How we get in our own way
  • Embracing our inner 4-year-old
  • Seeing the 4-year-old in others as a way of connection and compassion
  • Ways of asking permission to say hard things and designing agreements
  • Listening to our intuition
    • Saying it out loud even if we aren’t sure
    • Unattached to interpreting it correctly
    • Cleaning up what doesn’t work
  • John wonders when the “lock down sessions” will end and the “freedom sessions” will begin

Credits

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